Posts from people who have your same problem occur on a regular basis here on RFM. If I'm serving tables at a restaurant, I'm going to tell my boss that she's got to cover for me because there's an emergency and I'm leaving. Let's talk about kids. He will eventually have more time for you, but right now he is likely giving you all the time that he can, even though it is very little.
As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies. You see, I am the guy, and she is the established doctor dermatologist. From someone else in the medical field - a nightly phone call would be seriously draining, even if it only lasted a few minutes. I loved being single, and I love dating him now, but demanding rotations are giving me an idea of what his surgical residency will be like except that I know it will be x I have spent hours and hours and hours on blogs like these, trying to understand if it will be worth it-- worth the very real possibility of losing my identity, of boxing myself in career-wise, of never being in control of where I live, of a thousand lonely nights. Why shouldn't both people be responsible for making it work.
Mormon women greatly value sincerity of purpose. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet. It is amazing how different values and outlooks, interpersonal relationships can be from family to family. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract. I am not married yet, there is some consolation in that. Not sure if you are, or not. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point.
She encourages me to develop my skills and talents, and provides an example in several of those areas. I know many of you understand how Im feeling and a lot of you have been there for many years already. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. It is much easier for the Holy Ghost to influence good people. You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself. That's what love is, right. However, if you are a Catholic guy dating a Mormon girl, then remember that her parents may be averse to it.